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Date : Monday 11 July 2016
Time : 20:13 Title : don't read if you're easily offended. i am SO angry with this world. found a really really dumb piece written by someone who obviously doesn't know any better, and i'm so so so mad.
 oh, my gosh, are we going to have to live with such nonsense for the rest of our lives? i'm not very sure when humans started taking it upon themselves to slut-shame/body-shame/sexualise females, or when it became a 'norm' to actually ask victims of sexual assault things like "what were you wearing? were you drinking/on drugs/sober/high? did you lead [your assailant] on?" i'm not very sure when it became a 'thing' to judge someone based off the clothes they wear and make mindless accusations about them. i'm even more unsure about who or what planted this notion into everyone's heads that the clothes someone - women in particular - wears defines them and what will be coming for them if you know what i mean. but it HAS to stop. because of people like this person who submitted such crap to this newspaper company, many victims of sexual assault/any other forms of abuse are so afraid to speak out. victims of assault don't want to and should not have to hear things like those few questions in bold - or anything similar - in the earlier paragraph. victims of assault should instead be hearing things like "what happened? tell us the full story. we want to help you." victims of assault should NEVER be made to feel that whatever happened was their fault. how does that even add up?! 
why is it that we still see victims being interrogated and questioned like they were 'asking for it'? heck, the assailants can't control themselves, how is that the victim's fault?
how does texting you first equate to wanting you sexually?
how does anyone know for sure what anyone else really wants?
party girls (people in general) are not all loose/unwilling to settle down/any other stereotype like this.
haven't you ever thought about why she 'likes to date'? what if it's her way of guarding her heart?
see. this happens to KIDS too. kids who were innocently clad in things like pajamas.
so, can anyone really say "it was what she was wearing"?
(Images from http://www.jaagore.com/power-of-49/an-ode-to-people-who-blame-the-victim)
such mindless statements have GOT to stop.
worse, why are people - mostly women, but i believe everyone will be talked about this way at some point in time during their lives or another - being judged and criticised for how they choose to dress? that stupid article also says how dressing revealing "does not reflect well on the girls' modesty and upbringing". well fuck you, writer, because everyone will want to keep up with today's trends (be it in IT or in fashion or in anything really) and not get left behind and stuck in past. it's called keeping up with the times, haven't you heard of this? girls don't dress to impress guys. girls don't doll themselves up for guys. girls don't want to look good JUST FOR GUYS. over the years i've had negative comments come my way about the way i dress and how i'm gonna get in trouble someday over that ... and i say, go fuck yourselves. my clothes don't define WHO i am, maybe it does define my style and my taste to a certain extent but that doesn't necessarily make me a 'slut' or a 'whore', right?
then again i guess we can never win; if you dress "sloppily" to, for example, school, you'll get comments like "oh em gee why doesn't --- ever dress up?" "did they come to school in their pajamas?" "well, they would look a lot better if they put in some effort into their appearance." then on the other end of the spectrum if you do actually dress up, you get comments like "oh who are you impressing?" "that's too flashy/tight/showy/what-have-you." "erm, i guess it'll be better if you wear a cardigan/jacket over it."
YOU CAN NEVER FUCKING PLEASE ANYBODY ANYWAY SO MIGHT AS WELL LET THESE COMMENTS ROLL OFF YOUR BACK AND CONTINUE TO WEAR WHAT YOU WANT.
seriously! it's SO sickening to be judged just because i dress a certain way and then get odd looks thrown my way for when i'm comfortable and relaxed (maybe in a simple top and shorts and sneakers). heck if someone feels comfortable in a certain style then who are you to tell them not to wear what they want? also if someone loves themselves, loves their bodies, knows they look and feel good in a certain style, who are you to bring them down for that? when did we become so self-entitled thinking we're all better than everyone else and we all have the rights to say things that could actually be rather damaging to someone's mind and heart and esteem?
    
this is where that so-called sensitive topic on double standards come in. see, when a guy posts a photo of himself half-naked on social media, he gets heart-eye emoji comments and thirsty gals trying to invade his DMs because they want to get to know him better and try to get him to be theirs. but when a girl posts a photo of herself in lingerie, in a bikini, in something relatively revealing, she will also get those similar heart-eye emoji comments - but some of them are from guys who will DM her (on their own accord) with things like "i wish i could slide my dick into that pussy of yours". or, she gets stuff like "wtf you're a disgrace cover up you slut" "your body isn't even that great anyway" "take this photo down please" ... what the hell?
to further prove my point ...
what's the whole deal on shaming women and not giving them the freedom to do what they want and what they love? what's the problem with women confident in their own skin? what's with women who are capable enough to run companies/businesses? what's the problem with women who embrace their sexuality and/or are open about it? what's the problem with women who are a little more conservative and have more traditional views on sex? why can't girls go out to party and drink and have fun and unwind?
why is the world trying so hard to oppress women, shame them, blame them, make them want to run and hide?
weren't we all created as equals to walk this earth? what's with some hordes of humans out there who still try to make one gender more superior than the other?
also before anyone starts some argument with me on being a feminist and being some "basic bitch" who is just mindlessly following the crowd, let me tell you what i think and feel in an image:
it's not about being better than another gender or trying to elevate females. it's about trying to stop all these mindless oppression, these stupid accusations/judgments/insults/harsh treatment/abuse. we all bleed the same beneath our skin so i don't see the need for any discrimination/superiority complexes in ANY way.
i'm out. xo
Date : Friday 1 July 2016
Time : 17:23 Title : photo dump. just here to dump some photos from some memorable dates a while ago~ ^^
08 June 2016; Royston's in-advance 21st birthday party! boyf and timothy came to my place and waited for me to get ready before we headed off to eat sushi. heehee. then we traveled down to harbourfront and shopped for royston's birthday present at vivo city before walking over to my former workplace. so hot. ;___; 
white/blue theme party~
called roy and he said he wasn't ready and that we were the first to arrive LOL. hung around RWS for a bit, waited for kenny, then finally went up to hard rock hotel for the party. was good to chat and hang out with many friends who were there as well hehe. had a good time overall. ^^
pre-party pict. =D
credits: l. yiting~ ^^
 
some random shots taken in the bathroom because it's just too pretty HAHAHA.
we weren't the only ones doing this. =P
=D =D =D
 
groupies~ xo
said goodbye to roy and his family and some remaining friends after a while, then kenny, timothy, johnathan, boyf and i went over to holland village for some beers and supper. had a lot of fun hahaha.
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forgot what else happened over the next few days. o.o" i do remember going out with kaiting, joey and boyf to dhoby for army stew on the 9th. spent most of the day at the mind cafe playing games hehe. ^^ i also remember going over to timothy's on the 18th for steamboat and drinks. stayed there till about 5+ or 6 in the morning and it was rather fun. =D
i also remember going over to the dentist on the 20th and had three of my teeth forcibly extracted in order to make room for my braces. T____T i'm pretty much healed already (of course) but it does feel a bit weird eating normally.
just finished my MSAs and i'm not feeling very confident about anything at all. =')
30 June 2016
last day of my exams! kind of sad because everyone else finished theirs earlier and i had to wait till the 30th. ><" paid a visit to the ramadhan bazaar at geylang serai with boyf! made VERY last-minute plans to meet timothy there, because we found out he would be going with his friend as well on the exact same date. XD kenny and angel coincidentally were going to go as well. reached the bazaar and tried to locate timothy, then a hand reached out to say hi to me and i saw that it was shawn and his girlfriend! big coincidences hahaha.
tbh i was quite disappointed that i didn't get to eat what i wanted. =( WAY too many humans and WAY too squeezy and WAY too hot. got pushed and shoved around so much. the heat was unbearable as well and i kind of stopped feeling hungry after a while. didn't buy much although i was really raring to eat a lot before we went. =( we did manage to get the famous watermelon volcano and the giant sotong bakar though. couldn't find my macaron ice cream wtf. so sad! T__T
we also tried this really strange ... spicy korean frozen yogurt. erm ...
my in-doubt face.
it actually looks presentable, no?
but .................
paddlepop pudding drink hehe. i quite like it!!
can you believe that i went there only to get fried oreos - which i didn't even finish? SIGH. it was fun and interesting but it's just too hot and too crowded for me to want to eat anything at all. =( hoping to go again next year. so overall, it was nice to just hang out with timothy and his pretty friend janel. ^.^
janel left first and timothy stayed with boyf and i to hang out and chat. we gave up going back inside to the bazaar so we went to city square's mcdonald's to sit and cool down. spent the rest of the night talking and smoking until it was time for timothy to catch his train home, so we all parted ways. =D
 
chubby chubby face. not every angle is my best. but it's okay!
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shall update again asap. xo
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