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Date : Monday, 11 July 2016
Time : 20:13 Title : don't read if you're easily offended. i am SO angry with this world. found a really really dumb piece written by someone who obviously doesn't know any better, and i'm so so so mad.
 oh, my gosh, are we going to have to live with such nonsense for the rest of our lives? i'm not very sure when humans started taking it upon themselves to slut-shame/body-shame/sexualise females, or when it became a 'norm' to actually ask victims of sexual assault things like "what were you wearing? were you drinking/on drugs/sober/high? did you lead [your assailant] on?" i'm not very sure when it became a 'thing' to judge someone based off the clothes they wear and make mindless accusations about them. i'm even more unsure about who or what planted this notion into everyone's heads that the clothes someone - women in particular - wears defines them and what will be coming for them if you know what i mean. but it HAS to stop. because of people like this person who submitted such crap to this newspaper company, many victims of sexual assault/any other forms of abuse are so afraid to speak out. victims of assault don't want to and should not have to hear things like those few questions in bold - or anything similar - in the earlier paragraph. victims of assault should instead be hearing things like "what happened? tell us the full story. we want to help you." victims of assault should NEVER be made to feel that whatever happened was their fault. how does that even add up?! 
why is it that we still see victims being interrogated and questioned like they were 'asking for it'? heck, the assailants can't control themselves, how is that the victim's fault?
how does texting you first equate to wanting you sexually?
how does anyone know for sure what anyone else really wants?
party girls (people in general) are not all loose/unwilling to settle down/any other stereotype like this.
haven't you ever thought about why she 'likes to date'? what if it's her way of guarding her heart?
see. this happens to KIDS too. kids who were innocently clad in things like pajamas.
so, can anyone really say "it was what she was wearing"?
(Images from http://www.jaagore.com/power-of-49/an-ode-to-people-who-blame-the-victim)
such mindless statements have GOT to stop.
worse, why are people - mostly women, but i believe everyone will be talked about this way at some point in time during their lives or another - being judged and criticised for how they choose to dress? that stupid article also says how dressing revealing "does not reflect well on the girls' modesty and upbringing". well fuck you, writer, because everyone will want to keep up with today's trends (be it in IT or in fashion or in anything really) and not get left behind and stuck in past. it's called keeping up with the times, haven't you heard of this? girls don't dress to impress guys. girls don't doll themselves up for guys. girls don't want to look good JUST FOR GUYS. over the years i've had negative comments come my way about the way i dress and how i'm gonna get in trouble someday over that ... and i say, go fuck yourselves. my clothes don't define WHO i am, maybe it does define my style and my taste to a certain extent but that doesn't necessarily make me a 'slut' or a 'whore', right?
then again i guess we can never win; if you dress "sloppily" to, for example, school, you'll get comments like "oh em gee why doesn't --- ever dress up?" "did they come to school in their pajamas?" "well, they would look a lot better if they put in some effort into their appearance." then on the other end of the spectrum if you do actually dress up, you get comments like "oh who are you impressing?" "that's too flashy/tight/showy/what-have-you." "erm, i guess it'll be better if you wear a cardigan/jacket over it."
YOU CAN NEVER FUCKING PLEASE ANYBODY ANYWAY SO MIGHT AS WELL LET THESE COMMENTS ROLL OFF YOUR BACK AND CONTINUE TO WEAR WHAT YOU WANT.
seriously! it's SO sickening to be judged just because i dress a certain way and then get odd looks thrown my way for when i'm comfortable and relaxed (maybe in a simple top and shorts and sneakers). heck if someone feels comfortable in a certain style then who are you to tell them not to wear what they want? also if someone loves themselves, loves their bodies, knows they look and feel good in a certain style, who are you to bring them down for that? when did we become so self-entitled thinking we're all better than everyone else and we all have the rights to say things that could actually be rather damaging to someone's mind and heart and esteem?
    
this is where that so-called sensitive topic on double standards come in. see, when a guy posts a photo of himself half-naked on social media, he gets heart-eye emoji comments and thirsty gals trying to invade his DMs because they want to get to know him better and try to get him to be theirs. but when a girl posts a photo of herself in lingerie, in a bikini, in something relatively revealing, she will also get those similar heart-eye emoji comments - but some of them are from guys who will DM her (on their own accord) with things like "i wish i could slide my dick into that pussy of yours". or, she gets stuff like "wtf you're a disgrace cover up you slut" "your body isn't even that great anyway" "take this photo down please" ... what the hell?
to further prove my point ...
what's the whole deal on shaming women and not giving them the freedom to do what they want and what they love? what's the problem with women confident in their own skin? what's with women who are capable enough to run companies/businesses? what's the problem with women who embrace their sexuality and/or are open about it? what's the problem with women who are a little more conservative and have more traditional views on sex? why can't girls go out to party and drink and have fun and unwind?
why is the world trying so hard to oppress women, shame them, blame them, make them want to run and hide?
weren't we all created as equals to walk this earth? what's with some hordes of humans out there who still try to make one gender more superior than the other?
also before anyone starts some argument with me on being a feminist and being some "basic bitch" who is just mindlessly following the crowd, let me tell you what i think and feel in an image:
it's not about being better than another gender or trying to elevate females. it's about trying to stop all these mindless oppression, these stupid accusations/judgments/insults/harsh treatment/abuse. we all bleed the same beneath our skin so i don't see the need for any discrimination/superiority complexes in ANY way.
i'm out. xo
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