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Date : Monday, 29 August 2016
Time : 14:26 Title : some opinions i'm quite tired of having to repeat myself again and again but THE JOKER AND HARLEY QUINN ARE NOT RELATIONSHIP GOALS OKAY.
but well, i'm not pointing fingers or anything. i'm just expressing my opinions. :) seriously!! all that talk about 'being attracted to a psychopath' or 'needing myself a man like the joker' or 'wanna be as badass as harley' or 'i ship them so bad' - stop. i'm starting to actually hate the word "goals" because of this.  
well i mean unless you're totally into an abusive relationship then okay!! ^_^
LOL sarcasm aside, i think suicide squad's portrayal of this mad love (haha, forever going back to this reference) has completely ruined it for a lot of those who don't read the comics and/or don't know anything about the DCU. it has also ruined it a lot for those of us who DO read the comics / know about the DCU. in the movie, our clown prince of crime is a sweetheart who is going to extreme lengths to rescue the one love of his life from belle reve. such AWWWWW, right? lol how about no, because we all know by now that harley is just someone he uses - in his acts of crime, his twisted plans, maybe even as a sex slave - who knows? i won't put it past him because there's something harley says to him, while he's devising yet another of his evil plans, "aww c'mon puddin', don't you wanna rev up your harley? VROOM VROOM."
and he pushes her away.
do you have ANY idea how sad this can be for a woman who has been abused (any form of abuse)? she starts referring to herself as an OBJECT, how is this even acceptable? she's been deluded into thinking that it's okay for her to talk about herself in this demeaning manner because that's the only way she'll get his affections. still want a relationship like that?
i feel like people love this pairing because of fanfics, fan art, and the suicide squad movie. okay look, it's PERFECTLY FINE to love the characters in whatever universe you got to know them from (well, we all know how comics are, right?). what's not okay is to romanticize this abusive relationship and hand it down to our future generations that such things are okay.
"oh honey, he pushed you down at the playground today? it probably means he likes you!"
"why are you so annoyed that he says he wants to rape you? take it as a compliment, girl."
... do these ring a bell?
we have GOT to stop teaching people such nonsense. we also have to stop shutting victims of such treatment, such abuse, down. of course, men can be victims of abuse as well. it doesn't have to be physically or sexually, it could be emotionally or mentally. i'm not saying that we've gotta all gear up and protect women ONLY from abuse so don't get your panties in a bunch if you misunderstood. ^^
back to my point - harley quinn loves the joker to the point of obsession. she's tried again and again to stand up for herself, to walk away, but when the joker does something for her that she perceives as sweet and nice, she falls for him all over again. these are signs of mental and emotional abuse, and it's not healthy at all. victims of abuse tell themselves "it's okay, i love them. it was probably my fault." or anything similar, and they find themselves being unable to get out of this, because they've already deluded themselves into thinking "it's okay". harley LETS the joker play with her and manipulate her because she's so crazily in love with him to the point of no return. she tells herself it's OKAY in many cartoons and comics and oh gosh, it's such a heartbreaking thing to witness.
(my current whatsapp profile picture haha.)
the same goes for jared leto.
okay let me clarify this: i understand how we all tend to jump on the bandwagon over something 'in trend' at the moment, when something is soooooooooo hyped up (like that freaking taiwanese brand of milk tea that hit singaporean stores LOL, that some singaporeans had to actually sweep boxes of them off the shelves and prevent others from trying a bottle or two). it's completely fine to see new things, try new things, expose yourself to new things. that's life y'know. i just can't stand it when people romanticize abuse and call it "goals". i'm not just saying this being a victim of abuse myself. i'm speaking up for all the other victims in this world, too - victims who have been shut down so forcibly and crudely, victims who seem to have lost their voice, victims who feel so broken and crippled. and i want to tell you all that THERE IS HOPE FOR YOU, you're a fighter, you're a survivor. you CAN get out of this. you are NOT alone. |
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